Battle over the bed. It happens almost nightly. At least one of our boys will make it into our bed some time in the night. Sometimes it is two boys and sometimes it is three boys. I am not a big fan with sleeping with my kids, but I am not a big fan of getting up in the middle of the night to battle my boys either. If I get up and make them go back to bed, I am up for a long time. I don't fall asleep easily. Mike, on the other hand, can fall asleep mid sentence! So here is how it goes. If one boy makes it into the bed, we usually don't do anything. If two make it into the bed without waking Mike up, they get away with it. If three boys come into our bed, Mike will get up and walk them back into their room. That is what happens almost every night. When I wake up in the morning, it is always a surprise to see who made it through the night with mom and dad. The main thing keeping me from making the bed off limits every night is my memories as a child climbing into my mom and dad's bed and feeling so safe and so secure and so cozy. I want my children to feel that! But not three boys at a time!
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I know what you mean - we have very stong opinions about "the family bed". Even before I had kids or knew Sonj S*, we had decided what our policy would be once kids came along. I'll never forget what she said on the subject (not the exact quote, but something to the effect of this) - "My master bedroom is for me, my husband and the three Rs - reading, rest and romance. Those things can't happen with children in the room or bed. Children may come in the room durring hte night tobe comforted, but then they are taken right back to their own beds." Since I look up to her in so many ways, (especially on how to remain true to myself when surrounded by the little people I love) I share her words with everyone I know - they have strengthened how I feel and what I need!
I totally remember her words too. I totally agree also. I just haven't put it into practise!
maybe you should institute the "floor bed" as we used to call it. when Parker was crying in Audrey's room, a couple of years ago, she would come in ours and sleep on a little bed we had made on the floor. unfortunately, it took a move to California to break her of the habit. good luck, just remember, you have the rest of your life to be alone with Mike. cherish it while the boys still show their love for you. :)
Such a hard situation-- I remember cuddling with my mom when I'd had a bad dream when I was little... But they did the "floor bed" thing like Leslie described. Maybe that's something you could try at first. Good luck! You're such a patient woman-- I admire that!
I can SO relate Audra. If I have to get up out out of the bed, it takes me forever to go back to sleep, and if it's after 4:30-5am... I just lay there until the sun comes up. I don't know what it is about the whole getting up part, but it wakes ya up! I like the floor bed idea though, We may have to try that!
I always loved cuddling with you kids! I felt close and safe and loved.
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