Do you guys know anyone that consistently offends you? I do. This person offends me almost every time we speak to each other or have a conversation. It is so easy to get mad at this person! The hard part is realizing and reminding myself that this person is not meaning to be rude. In fact, this person probably thinks they are sending the message of "I want to help. I care about you." when in fact I am receiving the message as "you are stupid and don't know what you are doing". It is hard to swallow my pride, look at things from their perspective, and let it go! But that is the best thing to do. It is at these challenging times that I think, "Do I have charity? Can I love and look at this person as Christ does, with unconditional love?" Man, it's hard sometimes!
p.s. This person does not read my blog so don't worry that it is you!
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I totally know what your talking about but I always feel that I am the person you are talking about! I often find that I say the wrong things to people but fail to realize it until hours later and then I feel horrible. It think I just get flustered in certain situations and I say things that I think are nice but after some time passes I think about what I said and realize how it could be misunderstood. Now that being said - maybe this person is just like me and tends to say the wrong thing when she doesn't mean anything by it -I say maybe because I don't know the person you are talking about unless it's me :) I can tell you that after this happens I always feel awful but I never come back and say anything because I know that I will only say something more stupid and insulting and then have to apologize for that :-)
Maybe you should go see a psychologist about it. :)
Audra,
I had no idea that I was offending you. I sincerely apologize. Please accept my apology.
John
Audra,
I think I know the person you are talking about and I can relate. I really think that we need to let things go. It is so hard for me too! But honestly, I feel a huge relief off my chest when I do. And to be honest, sometimes I just Do NOT want to let it go- But we need to in order for us to grow in love. You get what I am saying?
YEs, just like Audra said, maybe you need to see a psychologist. It wouldn't hurt! Sometimes I think I should!! :) hehe
I had a woman I worked with for years who was always saying inappropriate things. It drove me and many others NUTS. What I did know is that it was her way of being in control and she was really very insecure about her own abilities so to make her look better she has to make others seem less significant. Sad, I know, but they just don't get it and continue to offend. Don't take it personally.
I know someone like that too. It's hard when you want to just scream at them sometimes to mind thier own business. I hope it all works out!
Bobbie - you reminded me that I forgot to add that I probably offend people and don't even know it! If I offend others, I honestly don't mean to! So it's best to think the best and admit that the person really doesn't mean to offend.
And John,
You figured me out. I was talking about you. Even though I tried to trick you by putting the p.s. this person doesn't read my blog. I guess you're too smart. Ok, ok, I accept your apology.
Audra,
I meant Jessis advice, not yours. :) Yes, I am sure we ALL offend people. We just need to look for the best in everyone. :) Love ya girl!
ooooh so sorry about that. sometimes people just come across the wrong way... offending and taking offence is always a hard thing... i do plenty of both so i will be quiet on that one.
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