change of mind, victory, and goals

I know you must be sick of hearing about decorating, but let me say one last thing about it. I am having a hard time because I change my mind!

I am pretty good at recognizing when my child does something bad. I try and discipline and teach him when those times come up. But I wonder, do I recognize enough when they do something good, or don't do something bad? That is a little trickier - when they don't act up, or don't complain, or don't fight. Well, I'm paying more attention to those times when I should celebrate a good choice. I say, "Victory! You did it! You asked nicely! You were a peacemaker! You didn't cry or whine! You controlled your temper! etc." Then they do a victory dance. Each boy has his own unique victory dance, and they get real excited to show it off. It's been a great teaching tool!

A couple of years ago, Jessi shared the idea of making monthly goals instead of, or in addition to, your New Years resolutions. This year Mike and I are making monthly goals together and it has been very effective (so far!). We are on the same page, working for the same goal, and helping each other out. Another idea Jessi found on a blog out there, was to pick one word to work on for the year or each month. Some examples are faith, discipline, diligence, endure, pray, forgive, content, service, etc. Mike and I chose to work on something for each month and this month's has been PATIENCE. Man, it has helped me do better with my boys (including the big one). And I'm sure it has been helpful for Mike also, especially when dealing with me (see first paragraph above:)).

Reminder - share your ideas too! I love to hear what works in your home!